Tonya Orvis

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Welcome - I鈥檓 Tonya, and I鈥檓 really glad you鈥檙e here.

I offer therapy for people who hold everything together - until they can鈥檛 anymore.

You might be the one others rely on: the calm one, the organiser, the peace鈥慿eeper. On the outside, you seem steady. But inside, it can feel very different. Your mind may be busy all the time. You might replay conversations, worry about small things, or feel anxious without knowing why. You may not have the words for what鈥檚 going on - you just know something feels off.

Many of the people I work with grew up in homes that felt confusing, unpredictable, or emotionally overwhelming. They learned to stay small, keep quiet, or take care of other people鈥檚 feelings. As adults, this can show up as anxiety, people鈥憄leasing, self鈥慸oubt, or feeling constantly 鈥渙n alert.鈥�

What it might feel like day鈥憈o鈥慸ay:

鈥� Your mind is busy even when life looks calm

鈥� You overthink texts, conversations, or small decisions

鈥� You feel responsible for keeping everyone happy

鈥� You鈥檙e tired from being 鈥渢he strong one鈥�

鈥� You know something isn鈥檛 right but can鈥檛 explain it

鈥� Your body feels tense, tight, or on edge

I work online only, so you can talk from a space that feels familiar and safe. My approach is gentle, steady, and centred around you. You set the pace, and I walk alongside you - listening without judgement, keeping things free of jargon, and offering space to explore what鈥檚 been hard to carry. You don鈥檛 need to arrive with the right words; we can find them together.

Clients often describe our sessions as calm and grounding - a space where they can finally breathe out and be themselves without pressure.

Starting therapy can feel daunting, especially when you鈥檙e used to coping alone. I offer a free 20鈥憁inute consultation so you can get a sense of what it might be like to work together. My aim is to offer a steady, supportive space where you can make sense of your past, reconnect with yourself, and begin to feel more grounded in your day鈥憈o鈥慸ay life.

My way of working is simple and human. I don鈥檛 sit as 鈥渢he expert.鈥� I sit with you. Many of the people I support have spent years looking after others, keeping the peace, or trying to stay in control. On the outside they seem fine, but inside they feel anxious, overwhelmed, or worn out.

In our sessions, we slow things down. We look gently at how your past relationships and early experiences may still be affecting you today - how you think, how you feel, and how you relate to others. You don鈥檛 need to have a clear story or explanation before you start. We take it step by step.

Who I work well with:

Adults who:

鈥� grew up around emotional ups and downs

鈥� feel anxious, on edge, or easily overwhelmed

鈥� struggle to say no or put themselves first

鈥� find it hard to relax or switch off

鈥� carry old relationship wounds into the present

鈥� feel responsible for other people鈥檚 feelings

鈥� look like they鈥檙e coping but feel exhausted inside

鈥� don鈥檛 have the words yet - just a sense that something needs to change

Over time, people often notice small but important shifts - feeling steadier, less overwhelmed, or more able to pause before spiralling into worry. These changes often show up in the body too: softer shoulders, easier breathing, a sense of grounding.

I support adults with:

鈥� Attachment and relationship wounds

鈥� People鈥憄leasing, perfectionism and self鈥慳bandonment

鈥� Growing up with emotionally inconsistent or immature caregivers

鈥� Feeling on edge, overwhelmed or shut down

鈥� Big emotions, conflict anxiety and relationship struggles

鈥� Anxiety, worry and constant overthinking

My role is to offer a steady, supportive space where you can understand yourself more clearly and feel more grounded in everyday life. If you鈥檙e tired of holding everything together alone, this can be a place where you don鈥檛 have to. 

Our first session is there to give us a steady starting point. We鈥檒l spend most of the time going through a gentle questionnaire together. This helps me get a clearer picture of you, your background, and what鈥檚 brought you to counselling. It鈥檚 simply a way for me to understand you better so I can support you in a way that feels right for you.

This first session isn鈥檛 about diving straight into difficult things. It鈥檚 about slowing down, building safety, and making sure we have the context we need. By the end, you鈥檒l have had space to share what feels important, and I鈥檒l have a better sense of how to walk alongside you in the sessions ahead.

At the moment, I offer weekly sessions. Meeting weekly gives counselling a steady rhythm, which can be especially helpful when you鈥檙e working with anxiety, relationship patterns, or the impact of earlier experiences. It helps us build trust at a gentle pace and gives you regular space to process what comes up.