Fay Wancke

I am currently available for both in person and online sessions: Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday.

My hours are 9.00am to 6.00pm

I offer a safe, supportive counselling space where the relationship between us is at the heart of the work. I am a person-centred therapist and believe that feeling heard, understood and accepted is the foundation for meaningful change. 

My work is informed by Transactional Analysis, including the I'm OK, You're OK philosophy and life script analysis, supporting clients to better understand themselves, their relationships ,and the patterns that shape their lives.

I work with attachment difficulties and developmental trauma, helping you make sense of how early experiences continue to shape your thoughts, feelings and behaviours today.

I practice relationally offering empathy and respect.  I aim to provide warmth and steadiness, particularly when working with painful or complex experiences. At the same time I am not afraid to gently and respectively challenge patterns that may no longer be serving you ,  throwing light on insight and self awareness, instead.

I can use guided imagery and miniatures as creative and accessible ways of exploring feelings. Alongside this , psycho-education can be a valuable tool, helping clients make sense of their experiences and gain clarity.

I work through listening , seeing and feeling how a difficult  experience has affected your life , and between us we develop a better understanding of your thoughts and behaviours. Ultimately aiming to develop a  healthier relationship with yourself and others.  

 I believe a ‘good match' between counsellor and client is key: So I offer an initial complementary (up to 30 minute), in person or online session to support this belief.It is gentle, exploratory and low pressure.

 My counselling practice is set within a former shop premises, that has been tastefully transformed into a cosy welcoming space. It is quiet and private and intentionally designed to feel relaxed and nurturing. With over 40 years experience in a different therapeutic discipline , I bring a depth of understanding with my work.

I outline confidentiality , boundaries and practical details such as session lengths and frequency, helping the person feel informed and safe from the outset. A clear and professional framework is set while keeping the tone relaxed and approachable.

You are invited to describe what has brought to counselling and discuss what you hope to get from sessions. 

This is not a detailed history but a broad over view: we establish what changes are hoped for and what support would help.I listen carefully and pay close attention to how you tell your story  not just what you say.

As long as I feel I can offer support, I will describe briefly the ways I can work- so you have a sense of what on going sessions would feel like, and achieve.

Importantly you are encouraged to notice how you feel in the room, or on screen.  Ultimately whether you feel heard, comfortable and able to speak openly.

The session ends with space for questions and a clear next step.

This might be an invitation to book a session, or reflect before deciding, or if appropriate , a recommendation to seek a different type of support.

The overall tone is collaborative and respectful, reinforcing that counselling works best when both client and counsellor feel the relationship is right.

The first booked appointment will involve an an assessment in the form of questions,designed to establish a current and historical profile of your life, relational, family and other experiences that impact the way you think, feel and behave. 

If you have a clear sense of what you would like to work on then we explore  your preferences and ways of either coping better, building resilience or realising a sustainable change.