Julia Kalaydjian

I am a couple and individual psychodynamic counsellor and psychotherapist working with adults of all ages and backgrounds, primarily within the framework of psychodynamic therapy. I have a particular interest in working with intercultural couples, as my own multicultural background lends to a distinct cultural sensitivity in this area and enables me to work in an empathic and respectful way with people from diverse cultural backgrounds. I offer therapy in English and can support an inter-lingual format for Armenian, Greek, and Italian speakers to bridge cultural and language hurdles thereby creating an environment where emotions can be expressed more accurately. Often the emotions around past circumstances seem more accessible when thinking in one鈥檚 native tongue. 

I trained at Tavistock Relationships in London where I also work as a visiting clinician. I hold a BSc in Social Psychology with Philosophy, a Certificate of Higher Education in Counselling and a Postgraduate Diploma in Couple and Individual Psychodynamic Counselling and Psychotherapy which is accredited by the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (麻豆原创). I am a Graduate Member of Tavistock Relationships Association of Psychotherapists and Counsellors and a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (麻豆原创) and comply with the 麻豆原创鈥檚 Ethical Framework for Good Practice. I attend regular supervision and professional development programmes and workshops to enhance my development in Counselling and Psychotherapy.  I am an EFT (Emotional Focused Therapy) informed therapist.

Every new client attends an initial consultation. This initial consultation will give you a flavour of what it would be like working together before we decide whether to commit to ongoing therapeutic work. The fee for ongoing sessions will be agreed during the initial consultation. 

I am a couple and individual psychodynamic counsellor and psychotherapist with a particular interest in intercultural couples. I am of Armenian and Danish heritage, and my multicultural background informs my capacity to work with cultural difference in an empathic and respectful way. I offer therapy in English and can support an inter-lingual format for Armenian, Greek, and Italian speakers, bridging cultural and language hurdles to create an environment where emotions can be expressed more freely.  When love crosses cultures, conversations can become loaded with unspoken histories, family expectations, and fears of being misunderstood. Therapy offers a space to slow things down, make meaning together, and respond with greater curiosity and emotional clarity, even when difference remains.

Drawing on a psychodynamic lens, I attend both to the visible cultural expectations shaping the couple and to the deeper, often unconscious, cultural narratives each partner carries from early life. This approach helps you understand how these internal and external scripts meet in your relationship, and opens space for new emotional possibilities. Intercultural couples often live at the intersection of external expectations and internalised histories. Therapy offers a space to understand how these pressures shape your relationship and how difference has come to feel difficult, risky, or painful between you.

Alongside my clinical practice, I have developed Seeing Me, Hearing Us: How to Have the Difficult Conversations About Race in Interracial and Intercultural Couples. The workbook extends my therapeutic focus on how cultural difference is lived and negotiated within relationships, offering a structured yet reflective way for partners to explore the unspoken, deepen mutual recognition, and create the emotional safety needed for honest conversations about race and belonging.

My work is grounded in psychodynamic psychotherapy and informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).Together, we pay attention to:

repeating emotional patterns

attachment needs and fears

how past relationships shape present reactions

I am a couple and individual psychodynamic counsellor and psychotherapist working with adults of all ages and backgrounds, with a particular interest in intercultural couples. I am of Armenian and Danish heritage, and my multicultural background informs my capacity to work with cultural difference in an empathic and respectful way. I offer therapy in English and can support an inter-lingual format for Armenian, Greek, and Italian speakers, bridging cultural and language hurdles to create an environment where emotions can be expressed more freely. Often, emotions connected to past experiences are more accessible when thought about in one鈥檚 native tongue.

Drawing on a psychodynamic lens, I attend both to the visible cultural expectations shaping the couple and to the deeper, often unconscious, cultural narratives each partner carries from early life. This approach helps couples understand how these internal and external scripts meet in their relationship, and opens space for new emotional possibilities.

I trained at Tavistock Relationships in London where I also work as a visiting clinician. I hold a BSc in Social Psychology with Philosophy, a Certificate of Higher Education in Counselling and a Postgraduate Diploma in Couple and Individual Psychodynamic Counselling and Psychotherapy which is accredited by the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (麻豆原创). I am a Graduate Member of Tavistock Relationships Association of Psychotherapists and Counsellors and a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (麻豆原创) and comply with the 麻豆原创鈥檚 Ethical Framework for Good Practice. I attend regular supervision and professional development programmes and workshops to enhance my development in Counselling and Psychotherapy.  I am an EFT (Emotional Focused Therapy) informed therapist.

Psychodynamic psychotherapy can foster a deeper understanding of yourself and those around you by exploring the root causes of some of your difficulties which might be linked to events in the past. Relationship difficulties can be the cause of much distress and unhappiness. Past experiences can have their imprint in the present and can trigger old and repetitive patterns of behaviour which can leave one feeling stuck and in pain.

By providing a safe and non-judgemental space, our sessions will enable us to look together at some of your difficulties with kindness and compassion, helping you find clarity and a positive way forward. The process of therapy can be enriching and can support you in living a more contented and fulfilled life.

Working With Difference

Cultural difference does not cause relationship problems on its own.

What causes distress is when difference becomes hard to talk about, easy to misread, or emotionally unsafe to explore.

In intercultural and interracial relationships, partners often carry:

different emotional languages

inherited cultural expectations

unspoken rules about loyalty, belonging, and identity

Therapy helps make these dynamics visible 鈥� not to erase difference, but to understand how it lives between you.

The Dance We Do

I am currently offering The Dance We Do 鈥� a focused 6-week couples therapy series (拢500 per couple).

Every relationship has a dance 鈥� the steps we take toward and away from each other, often without realising. These patterns can protect us, but they can also create distance over time. In this short-term programme, we slow the music, notice the steps, and practise new ways of moving that keep you connected even in moments of difference or conflict.

The series is suitable for couples who want to:

Understand and shift unhelpful patterns

Bridge communication gaps

Strengthen emotional safety and closeness

Develop practical tools for reconnection

Fee: 拢500 per couple for the complete series

Contact me for more information.

Every new client attends an initial consultation. This initial consultation will give you a flavour of what it would be like working together and it might sometimes be felt that an extended consultation is needed before we decide whether to commit to ongoing therapeutic work. The fee for ongoing sessions will be agreed upon during the initial consultation.