Julie Elliott

I offer remote sessions via Zoom.

I offer sessions between these hours:

Mondays 9am - 7.30pm 

Tuesdays 2pm - 7.30pm 

Wednesdays 9am - 4pm

Thursdays 9am - 4pm

Fridays 9am - 4pm

For Individual Therapy (Adults)

In our work together we can focus on difficulty in relationships, reducing anxiety or depression and improve confidence and self-worth. This model of therapy is very well suited to those who are stuck in the cycle of suppression, avoidance or reactive emotional escalation. EFT can create greater connection with self and others. What may have felt frightening, unacceptable, painful or stressful, can become manageable and with curiosity and compassion, can be overcome.

I draw on the positive growth potential that I know you possess. My focus is on what you experience in the here and now and on understanding how your formative relationships have impacted on your present day interactions.

We focus on your emotions to understand how you feel, what your life experiences have meant to you and how your emotions guide your behaviour. Together we explore your thoughts, feelings, motivation and actions. I believe that lasting change happens when your emotions are addressed.

This model is based on attachment theory and in our sessions together, we will explore your, needs and fears and your deepest longings. We create a safe holding space that enables you to revisit difficult events, emotions and vulnerabilities. We can consider the attachment styles that impact how you see yourself and others in your life. Working in this way is where the deep and growthful change occurs.

Couples Therapy

I offer couples therapy using the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model which is rooted in attachment theory. We often find that relationship difficulties arise when couples experience emotional disconnection. These disruptions can lead to persistent negative cycles that become challenging to break. Using EFT I aim to help couples navigate these patterns, re-establish a secure connection, and foster a healthy, loving bond.

Individual Therapy (Adults)

In our sessions I will offer a warm and empathic place to work, where you will feel gently held and understood. I will work towards hearing your story, without pathologising or categorising you, your uniqueness will be respected.

We will explore what has happened in your life, the challenges that you have faced and how you have learned to cope with those challenges. Whatever methods you have chosen, we will reflect, validate and honour what you have been through.

I will attune with the emotions that arise for you, and get a sense of the deeper feelings that may be outside of your everyday awareness, maybe the ones that get bypassed because they feel unacceptable to you.

We slow things down enough to hear the emotions and what their call to action has been for you, making sense of your emotional process and organising it so that you can see clearly what happens for you when you are feeling vulnerable, or when the world tells you that you’re not good enough.

We make sense of the emotions and of any blocks that may have got in the way. We acknowledge and feel in to the new space that the encounters have created. Further processing and validating, we consolidate what you have achieved, celebrating your experience, courage and openness,

In Couples therapy:

We will ask the following questions

Do you and your partner truly understand and value each other? Are your arguments often critical or defensive? Are you caught in a cycle of negative interactions? Do you withdraw and stop communicating for days when feeling undervalued? Do you feel your partner will be there for you when you need them most?

During our work together, I take a neutral stance and observe the process between you. I understand that safety and trust issues exist within a distressed relationship and so I support you by creating a safe, supportive environment where there is no judgement.

Individual therapy

We will meet for an initial assessment, where I will ask questions about your childhood relationships, what was modelled to you and how you sought and received comfort in those relationships. Together we will get a sense of what your attachment styles have been and how things have played out in your adult relationships within the family, romantically or work and friendships. Together we will get a sense of where the pain is.

Couples Therapy

In our first session we will meet together to discuss what brings you to therapy. Both partners will have the change to have their say. We will discuss how you met, how long you have been together, what your strengths are and together we will explore where things started to go wrong.

The second and third sessions involve me meeting you individually to discuss your relationship history, going back to your childhood to understand your experience of attachment relationships.

In the fourth session, we meet altogether and discuss your shared goals for the therapy. For the remainder of the sessions we will all meet together.

Sessions can be 60 minutes or 90 minutes. 

I offer remote sessions via Zoom between these hours:

Mondays 9am - 7.30pm

Tuesdays 2pm - 7.30pm

Wednesdays 9am - 4pm

Thursdays 9am - 4pm

Fridays 9am - 4pm

I offer couples therapy using the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model which is rooted in attachment theory. Relationship difficulties arise when couples experience emotional disconnection. Using EFT I aim to help couples navigate negative patterns and re-establish a secure connection, fostering a healthy, loving bond.

During our sessions we will:

Recognize and Reconnect: Learn to identify moments of disconnection and know how to reconnect effectively.

Deepen Connection: Work together to strengthen and deepen your relationship.

Focus on Conflict: View the negative cycle of conflict as the common enemy, rather than each other.

Voice Your Feelings: Find your voice and communicate your feelings and needs within the relationship.

The strengths of the model that I use are:

Research and evidence based: Over 20 years of research supports the effectiveness of EFT across various relationship issues, including depression, PTSD, and chronic illness.

Safe Environment: EFT helps couples navigate safety and trust issues within a distressed relationship, offering a supportive and secure environment.

Healing Patterns: EFT heals negative relationship patterns, promoting a healthy connection, resilience, and deepening bonds; improving accessibility, responsiveness, and engagement for both partners.

By addressing these aspects, EFT can help you to build a more secure, resilient, and loving relationship.

I also work with individuals. Many of the people I work with feel stuck in repeated relational patterns, struggle with emotional closeness, fear rejection or abandonment, or find relationships overwhelming or confusing.

I use a structured, approach that focuses on understanding emotions and attachment needs. Together, we explore how past and present experiences shape the way you relate to yourself and others. 

I work with individuals experiencing relationship anxiety, conflict, low self-worth, difficulties with trust, communication challenges, and the impact of attachment wounds. This may include difficulties in romantic relationships, family relationships, friendships, or challenges with intimacy and vulnerability.

Therapy provides a safe, supportive space to make sense of emotional reactions, build emotional resilience, and develop more secure and fulfilling ways of connecting.

My therapeutic style is collaborative, compassionate, and non-judgemental. I aim to help clients feel understood and supported while gently exploring emotions that may feel difficult or overwhelming. Therapy is tailored to your needs and moves at a pace that feels right for you.

In our sessions we will address the negative cycle and work together so that you understand and value each other. Identifying conflicts and addressing the patterns that have become deep rooted habits. We will create a safe space so that you feel able to express your fears.

We will ask the following questions and identify what areas require focus

Do you and your partner truly understand and value each other?

Are your arguments often critical or defensive?

Does your relationship provide a safe space where you can be your true self?

Are you caught in a cycle of negative interactions?

Do you withdraw and stop communicating for days when feeling undervalued?

Do you feel your partner will be there for you when you need them most?

During our work together, I take a neutral stance and observe the process between you. I understand that safety and trust issues exist within a distressed relationship and so I support you by creating a safe, supportive environment where there is no judgement.

I use the EFT model to get to the core of your relationship distress by accessing underlying relationship issues, providing opportunities for accessibility, responsiveness and engagement for each partner.

In our first session we will meet together to discuss what brings you to therapy. Both partners will have the chance to have their say. We will discuss how you met, how long you have been together, what your strengths are and together we will explore where things started to go wrong.

The second and third sessions involve me meeting you individually to discuss your relationship history, going back to your childhood to understand your experience of attachment relationships.

In the fourth session, we meet altogether and discuss your shared goals for the therapy. For the remainder of the sessions we will all meet together.

Clients often describe the experience of working with me as warm and supportive. From our first session, I aim to create a safe, respectful space where you can speak openly and feel genuinely heard, without judgement or pressure to have everything figured out.

Therapy is collaborative and paced to suit you. We will pay attention to your emotional experiences and how these show up in your relationships. You may begin to notice patterns in how you respond to closeness, conflict, or distance, and we will gently work to understand where these patterns come from.

Emotionally Focused Individual and couples therapy helps clients connect more deeply with their emotions, especially those that may feel difficult, confusing, or overwhelming. Sessions often involve slowing things down, reflecting together, and making sense of emotional reactions in a way that feels manageable and contained.

Many clients find that therapy supports them to develop greater emotional awareness, self-compassion, and confidence in relationships. Over time, this can lead to feeling more secure, better able to express needs and boundaries, and more connected to themselves and others.

You remain in control of the process, and we regularly review how therapy is feeling for you. My role is to work alongside you as you develop new ways of relating that feel healthier and more fulfilling.

I generally offer online sessions between these hours:

Mondays 9am - 6pm

Tuesdays 2pm - 6pm

Wednesdays 9am - 3pm

Thursdays 9am - 3pm

Fridays 9am - 3pm 

For Individual Therapy (Adults)

In our work together we can focus on difficulty in relationships,  reducing anxiety or depression and improve confidence and self-worth. This model of therapy is very well suited to those who are stuck in the cycle of suppression, avoidance or reactive emotional escalation. EFT can create greater connection with self and others.  What may have felt frightening, unacceptable, painful or stressful, can become manageable and with curiosity and compassion, can be overcome.

I draw on the positive growth potential that I know you possess. My focus is on what you experience in the here and now and on understanding how your formative relationships have impacted on your present day interactions.

We focus on your emotions to understand how you feel, what your life experiences have meant to you and how your emotions guide your behaviour. Together we explore your thoughts, feelings, motivation and actions. I believe that lasting change happens when your emotions are addressed.

This model is based on attachment theory and in our sessions together, we will explore your, needs and fears and your deepest longings. We create a safe holding space that enables you to revisit difficult events, emotions and vulnerabilities. We can consider the attachment styles that impact how you see yourself and others in your life. Working in this way is where the deep and growthful change occurs. 

Couples Therapy 

I offer couples therapy using the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model which is rooted in attachment theory. We often find that relationship difficulties arise when couples experience emotional disconnection. These disruptions can lead to persistent negative cycles that become challenging to break. Using EFT I aim to help couples navigate these patterns, re-establish a secure connection, and foster a healthy, loving bond.

Individual Therapy (Adults)

In our sessions I will offer a warm and empathic place to work, where you will feel gently held and understood. I will work towards hearing your story, without pathologising or categorising you, your uniqueness will be respected.

We will explore what has happened in your life, the challenges that you have faced and how you have learned to cope with those challenges. Whatever methods you have chosen,  we will reflect, validate and honour what you have been through. 

I will attune with the emotions that arise for you, and get a sense of the deeper feelings that may be outside of your everyday awareness, maybe the ones that get bypassed because they feel unacceptable to you. 

We slow things down enough to hear the emotions and what their call to action has been for you, making sense of your emotional process and organising it so that you can see clearly what happens for you when you are feeling vulnerable, or when the world tells you that you’re not good enough.

We make sense of the emotions and of any blocks that may have got in the way. We acknowledge and feel in to the new space that the encounters have created. Further processing and validating, we consolidate what you have achieved, celebrating your experience, courage and openness, 

In Couples therapy:

We will ask the following questions

Do you and your partner truly understand and value each other? Are your arguments often critical or defensive? Are you caught in a cycle of negative interactions? Do you withdraw and stop communicating for days when feeling undervalued? Do you feel your partner will be there for you when you need them most?

During our work together, I take a neutral stance and observe the process between you. I understand that safety and trust issues exist within a distressed relationship and so I support you by creating a safe, supportive environment where there is no judgement.

Individual therapy

We will meet for an initial assessment, where I will ask questions about your childhood relationships, what was modelled to you and how you sought and received comfort in those relationships. Together we will get a sense of what your attachment styles have been and how things have played out in your adult relationships within the family, romantically or work and friendships. Together we will get a sense of where the pain is. 

Individual therapy costs £70 per hour 

Couples Therapy 

In our first session we will meet together to discuss what brings you to therapy. Both partners will have the change to have their say. We will discuss how you met, how long you have been together, what your strengths are and together we will explore where things started to go wrong.

The second and third sessions involve me meeting you individually to discuss your relationship history, going back to your childhood to understand your experience of attachment relationships.

In the fourth session, we meet altogether and discuss your shared goals for the therapy. For the remainder of the sessions we will all meet together.

Sessions can be 60 minutes or 90 minutes. 

Couples therapy costs £125 per hour 

I offer remote sessions via Zoom between these hours:

Mondays 9am - 7.30pm

Tuesdays 2pm - 7.30pm

Wednesdays 9am - 4pm

Thursdays 9am - 4pm

Fridays 9am - 4pm

For Individual Therapy (Adults)

I am an emotionally focussed therapist (EFT) and so I have a particular interest in emotions, attachment and relationships. In our work together, we can focus on how your relationships with others and or with yourself, may have created anxiety or depression.  We can also address what might be impacting your confidence and self-worth. 

EFT is helpful to those who suppress, avoid or react and rapidly emotionally escalate. EFT creates greater understanding and connection with self and others. 

During our therapy, what may have felt frightening, unacceptable, painful or stressful in life, can become manageable and with curiosity and compassion, can be overcome.

I draw on the positive growth potential that I know you possess. My focus is on what you experience in the here and now,  and how your emotions guide your behaviour. Together we explore your thoughts, feelings, motivation and actions. I believe that lasting change happens when your emotions are addressed.

This model is based on attachment theory and understanding how your formative relationships have impacted on your present day interactions. We consider the attachment styles that impact how you see yourself and others in your life and the meaning you make of your life experiences.

In our sessions together, we will explore your, needs and fears and your deepest longings. We create a safe holding space that enables you to revisit difficult events, emotions and vulnerabilities. Working in this way is where healing and deep and growthful change occurs.

Couples Therapy

I offer couples therapy using the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model (so, much of the above description applies to couples therapy too!)

We often find that relationship difficulties arise when couples experience emotional disconnection.

Using EFT for couples,  I aim to help couples identify and navigate negative patterns of relating, we work together to re-establish a secure connection, and foster a healthy, loving bond.

Individual Therapy

In our sessions, I offer a warm and empathic place where you will feel safely held and understood. I will hear your story, without pathologising or categorising you, your uniqueness will always be respected.

We will explore what has happened in your life, the challenges that you have faced and how you have learned to cope with those challenges. Whatever methods you have chosen, we will reflect, validate and honour what you have been through.

I will attune with the emotions that arise for you, and get a sense of the deeper feelings that may be outside of your everyday awareness, maybe the ones that get bypassed because they feel unacceptable to you.

We slow things down enough to hear the emotions and what their call to action has been for you, making sense of your emotional process, organising it so that you can see clearly what happens for you when you are feeling vulnerable, or when something in your world tells you that you’re not good enough.

Part of the process involves making sense of your emotions, (or feelings of being emotionless or disconnected),  and we acknowledge the blocks that may sometimes get in the way.  

You can reflect on and encounter with events, incidents or past conversations with important people in your life, (or conflicted parts of yourself), to deal with emotional injuries or disturbances that have been previously unresolved leading to greater inner peace!

With Couples therapy we ask:

Do you and your partner truly understand and value each other? Are your arguments often critical or defensive? Are you caught in a cycle of negative interactions? Do you withdraw and stop communicating for days when feeling undervalued? Do you feel your partner will be there for you when you need them most?

During our work together, I take a neutral stance and observe the process between you. I understand that safety and trust issues exist within a distressed relationship and I support you by creating a safe, supportive environment with no judgement.

Individual therapy

We will meet for an initial assessment, where I will ask questions about your childhood relationships, what was modelled to you and how you sought and received comfort in those relationships.

 Together we will get a sense of what your attachment styles have been and how things have played out in your adult relationships within the family, romantically or work and friendships. Together we will get a sense of where the pain is.

Couples Therapy

In our first session we will meet together to discuss what brings you to therapy. Both partners will have the change to have their say. We will discuss how you met, how long you have been together, what your strengths are and together we will explore where things started to go wrong.

The second and third sessions involve me meeting you individually to discuss your relationship history, going back to your childhood to understand your experience of attachment relationships.

In the fourth session, we meet altogether and discuss your shared goals for the therapy. For the remainder of the sessions we will all meet together.

Sessions can be 60 minutes or 90 minutes. 

Additional Info:

My philosophy is non-pathologising, I don’t view clients as problems to be solved or objects to be labelled. Each person I meet is a unique individual and I am interested in how each individual experiences emotions, relationships and life itself.

I hold a First Class Honours degree in Person Centred Therapy from the University of Warwick and continue to enjoy self development and training courses that ensure that I do not become complacent in my therapeutic practice. During this training, I specialised in supporting clients who has been traumatised by sexual violence, rape and abuse. 

I am trained in Emotionally Focussed Couplers Therapy, completing the Externship and Core Skills courses. I have also worked as a volunteer trainer with British Emotionally Focussed Therapy Centre and the Ireland Emotionally Focussed Therapy Centre.

I offer sessions between these hours:

Mondays 9am - 7.30pm

Tuesdays 2pm - 7.30pm

Wednesdays 9am  - 4pm

Thursdays 9am - 4pm 

Fridays 9am - 4pm

Hi my name is Jules and I am an Emotionally Focused Couple’s Therapist. I work with couples online and also in person from my office in Rugby. 

 I work with couples who are struggling with conflict, communication and distress in their relationship. Maybe you have become disconnected over the years and feel more like strangers, or maybe you’re recovering from an affair. Our work together will focus on the negative patterns and habits that you find yourselves in and the unresolved relationship injuries that are holding you back and causing your relationship to feel stuck in rut. Together we will work on creating a safe space where you can better understand each other’s feelings and fears and see how this has impacted on your relationship. The aim is to rebuild your emotional bonds and connection.

I have evening and daytime slots available. I work with couples on a weekly basis (this is necessary if our work together is to gain some traction).  

Using the emotionally focused therapy model, we first work on the here and now of identifying the negative pattern of interaction that contributes to your conflict and discomfort. This process helps you to identify how your insecurities and fears affect their relationship. We also pay attention to issues that may reside in your early attachments and work together to understand how this might play out in present relationships. 

We will look at patterns of shutting down and withdrawing and angry escalations and work together to understand which emotions are driving the behaviours and reactions. There is a focus on identifying the obstacles that have prevented feelings of trust, safety and connection. 

Through the work that we do in the therapy room, couples learn to be emotionally available, empathetic, and engaged with each other, strengthening the attachment bond and creating a safe place between them.

Our focus is not on the reactive behaviour but on the emotions that drive that behaviour, we work in a way that allows each person the opportunity to feel their emotion, to express it and to understand it with their partner's support provides the essence of change for the individual allowing them to move from feeling isolated to being emotionally connected with their partner. 

This process allows couples to interact in a new way and become more emotionally available to each other. 

I offer an initial conversation via zoom. During this time, we discuss what brings you to therapy, and what you would like to get from the therapy. I will say a little bit about how I work and whether I feel able to support you therapeutically. 

If we decide that we feel able to work together, we will compare our diaries and book in the first session. 

Thereafter, I will meet you together for a 60 minute session, in the next two sessions I will see you both individually, and thereafter I will see you together.