Ben Warden

Hi there thanks for stopping by. It is my passion to help you organise a problem in your life that's giving you a lot of stuckness or fear right now. This will help to loosen up your mind and body, as well as encouraging you to get better at talking about the problem, as this can end up being half the solution itself. The biggest problem tends to be where something remains unorganised and cluttered in your mind. This is because the back of your mind has already determined it matters to you in some way, and this process will be about getting you better at bringing this to the front of your mind and deciding what to do with it.

This will curb an excessive proclivity to overthink and distract yourself, including loosening the hold of any addiction, ADHD, anxiety and depressive issues. Gradually we're going to get you to stop fighting the mind you have, but work with it instead. Whilst you're a world of possibility, you will default for the most part where your core values lie.

But your core values and traumas are one and the same. They're a necessary symbiosis. You can't understand one without the other. Simply put, there's an essence to who you are. You'll share similar, aforementioned, proclivities to everyone else, but not in the same way. It's important we get to understand your own unique lens to how you interpret the world.

From the first session we'll try to get to know the problem. Sometimes it's just a case of getting out what's on the top of your mind and the more we unravel the clearer certain themes will emerge. Often it's the case that a problem discussed well can be half the solution itself. It's not just changing your relationship with the thoughts, but moreover the emotions they give you. There's always a reason you've developed the relationship with certain emotions in the way you have. It's not necessarily a case of getting rid of them, but a realignment of your own philosophy around them, especially when you come to realise how you've been shaped by them for better and worse, can actually give you a lot of gold and greater fluidity in your life and thinking. Succinctly put, you'll worry less and have greater confidence.

It's not that things shouldn't matter to you. Yes you're gonna feel pain around certain situations still. But it's unlocking something essential within yourself when it comes to not just coping with this pain better, but actually to move with it more as a guiding light in your life, rather than finding yourself going round in circles trying to escape what only seems to feel dark about it.

Change is not transformation. It's expansion. There's no need to get rid of the old you or your old way of coping. You can't anyway and you might still need that part of you going forward. It's just that you don't want to be stuck with one way of coping, fundamentally. Because this will remain a vicious cycle. Instead, we're effectively trying to open out the other 20-30% of your own mind (the deeper part of your own unconscious which has always been recording), in order you can find confidence from living by the heart (gut) more. This will free your mind as you'll come to accept that you don't need to free yourself from your own mind. As in you'll feel easier with solving what matters to you from it, at your own pace, and the rest of the time you're able to observe emotion.