Orah Bradshaw

I work using a framework called A Recipe For A Good Life, a structured programme of sessions that I have developed. 

Morning Intensives run from 9.30am to 12.20pm and include a 10 minute break. The fee is £256.

Afternoon Intensives run from 1.30pm to 4.20pm and include a 10 minute break. The fee is £256.

To begin with, I ask couples to book four intensives. Further sessions are then usually booked as either a morning or afternoon session on a fortnightly basis when requested.

If you have initially come to see me as part of a couple and we have agreed that individual work would best support your needs, I am happy to offer one-to-one counselling.

individual sessions last for 80 minutes. The fee is £128.

Couples Counselling on Hayling Island, Hampshire

I work exclusively with couples who want a clearer, steadier way of being together.

Many couples arrive feeling stuck in repeated patterns of hurt, misunderstanding, or distance. Often both partners are trying their best, yet something keeps going wrong. My role is not to take sides or offer quick fixes, but to help you slow patterns down, understand what is happening between you, and build more workable ways of relating.

My work is structured and purposeful. I use a framework I have developed called A Recipe for a Good Life, an integrative approach drawing on attachment theory, emotional regulation, and relational practice. The focus is on building emotional safety, strengthening regulation, and developing the capacity to stay engaged with one another even when conversations become difficult.

I work through counselling intensives. Each intensive consists of two 80-minute sessions with a short break in between and time at the end for consolidation. This format allows us to go deeper than traditional weekly sessions, while still maintaining clear containment and structure.

Within the intensives, couples learn to recognise and interrupt unhelpful relational patterns, understand the emotional systems driving conflict, communicate more directly and responsibly, repair more effectively after rupture, and reconnect emotionally and physically in ways that feel realistic and mutual.

Together, the intensives form a developmental journey. Couples move from building safety and clarity, to learning regulation, to turning towards difficulty with greater steadiness, and finally to integrating their history and direction. The aim is a relationship that feels alive, respectful, and grounded.

Counselling with me is not about blame or diagnosis. It is about clarity, responsibility, and strengthening your shared capacity to face life together.

Although my work is focused on the relationship, I pay close attention to each individual within the couple. Each partner brings their own history, patterns, sensitivities, and ways of coping, and these matter. At the same time, the relationship itself has its own dynamic, rhythm's, and pressures.

As part of our couples work, I will sometimes spend time with partners individually, within the overall structure of the work together. This helps each person reflect on their own responses and responsibilities, while keeping the focus on how these show up in the relationship. Individual sessions are always held in the service of the couples work, not as separate or parallel therapy.

This approach allows us to work at depth supporting personal insight alongside relational change, without losing sight of the shared task of building a more workable, respectful, and honest relationship.

My work with couples is informed by an understanding of how attention, emotion, and nervous systems operate in close relationships. I draw on mindfulness-based approaches and relational neuroscience to help couples slow things down, notice what is happening in moments of stress, and stay present with one another during difficulty. These ways of working are always used in service of the relationship, rather than stand alone individual therapy.

Couples don't just change by accumulating insights; they change by experiencing a different rhythm. Focused one-day intensives for couples improve communication, repair conflict and strengthen emotional and physical connection.

You contact me by e:mail and we will arrange a brief phone conversation with each of you. I will encourage you to ask any questions and we will assess together whether you are ready and safe for counselling at this time. This also gives you an opportunity to get a sense of what it might feel like to work with me, and whether I am the right counsellor for you.

Where appropriate, we will begin ongoing work as soon as possible. This work is structured in the form of counselling intensives, which include morning and afternoon session blocks on a Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday.